So this last Saturday was my aunt’s birthday and her kids and I managed to put together a little surprise birthday party for her. It was a little difficult to pull off, but we did it. In the moment she walked in and saw everything with everyone singing, she began to cry and that moment for me was priceless.
A lot of times, we tend to lose sight of the things that really count. We forget those things that are really important and that’s why I decided to write this, to remind us. We have family, we have friends and we have loved ones. Are you really there for them when they need you? or are you too busy caught up in your own thing that you forget there are others besides you?
You know what’s funny about life? Most times, we have knowledge. Like we know these things, I think they call it common sense; but we never really function with it. Life goes beyond chasing ambitions and pursuing wild dreams. It goes beyond “making money so your children will not suffer.” It goes beyond finding comfort for yourself alone all of the time. Life goes beyond doing things and living for yourself alone. There’s more to it. Someone I respect deeply said “when one dies, it doesn’t count whether they were the most hardworking but whether they were the most impactful.” I keep talking about impact because it is extremely important. If you’re not adding value to anyone around you, you might as well be dead. That might sound harsh but it’s the truth! What’s the purpose of living if no one can attest to how much you have added to them?
Let’s get back to the main point. Your family, your friends, your loved ones, they need you. Not just to bear the title of “father” or “mother” or “sibling” or “friend” but for you to actually be there for them. Lend a helping hand, a listening ear, offer a kind word… It’s not so much the material gifts we offer as the emotional support we give. Like I said, these are things we know. We just never really function with them. You don’t believe me? Let’s run a little test here. When was the last time you told that sibling that you loved them? Or you’re assuming that because they know it, then there’s no need for you to remind them? When last did you go out of your way to do something nice for that loved one? Really, it’s the little things that count. But like I said, sometimes we get too caught up in the “big” things and we forget.
No matter how busy you get, never forget that you have family and friends who need you. People around you should not pay you compliments out of a sense of duty but more because you deserve it. It’s important that you remember birthdays and anniversaries. If your memory isn’t that great, make use of calenders and reminders. Remember special events that are important to the ones close to you. Even if you can’t be there, you should at least be able to do something to let them know that you remembered and you regret being unable to be there with them. You should also try to make it up to them. That’s how they know you really care. I’m not the expert at being there all the time and going out of my way to do nice stuff, but I do try and I’m also using this as a reminder for myself.
It’s a new week and I want to challenge you to go out of your way and do something nice for the ones that are really close to you. Even if your job is saving the world, I tell you, all of that would count for nothing if you lose the ones closest to you. The reason is simple. No one will ever have your back like family. When the chips are down, they’ll likely be all you’ve got. Keep this in mind, family isn’t necessarily about blood ties but about heart ties. The woman whose birthday was on Saturday? I call her mummy and we aren’t even related but I love her, very much. At the end of the week, I’ll shed more light on this in my post on balance, but till then, I hope you enjoyed this. 🙂
So here’s to you. New week, a new chance to do things right. If they’re important to you, let them know. Re-affirm your affections for them. Call them up, send a nice text, prepare a nice meal, take them out, spend quality time with them. Whatever you do, however you do it, let those people know they are special to you. Be nice enough to share this and let me know how this works for you.